In the vast sea of people, two individuals may meet and establish a family, which is fate. However, marital life requires mutual understanding and communication in order for us to live together. If spouses can communicate harmoniously, it not only strengthens their relationship, but especially after having children, the sense of belonging for the children creates less disputes and more harmony in the family. Therefore, communication between spouses is crucial.
First and foremost, you must be honest with your wife or husband. If you can be rational and not emotional, you should tell a passerby.
Secondly, never use insulting or violent language. And listeners should not respond with phrases such as “haha”, “don’t care”, “get lost”, and other keywords.
Thirdly, third parties are not allowed to participate. If this occurs, moderate intervention is necessary.
Fourthly, try not to let others interfere with the conversation. When emotions escalate or abuse occurs, hold or touch the other person to relieve tension, and then talk.
Fifthly, women tend to complain just to vent their dissatisfaction, while men’s hoarse voice may be the most difficult to understand. Think more about each other’s emotions.
Sixthly, more communication and exchanges are necessary, and difficulties may arise at first. Gradually, communication will lead to unforeseen circumstances, and then all normal communication mechanisms will come into play.
Seventhly, avoid involving children. This is taboo.
Finally, couples should avoid mocking each other. On the one hand, it may be that one person has invested too much emotional capital, on the other hand, it may be a long-term habit. This needs to change. How to do this depends on the specific situation. The first layer is better, requiring less investment from a person’s attention. The second requires long-term emotional regulation and communication. Otherwise, the marriage may have problems.
The Importance of Communication Between Spouses
“Listening” is more important than “speaking”; generally speaking, people understand communication and exchanges, which often emphasize expression. How to express thoughts clearly is the most important part of communication. “Communication is to make the other party understand what you want to express. The whole process includes listening, speaking, and speaking. It is more important to understand and listen. Only by doing well in listening, speaking, and speaking clearly, can its practical significance be reflected.
Many couples, in order to prevent conflicts, try to avoid communication in order to reduce the possibility of disputes. This is very unhealthy for marriage. The purpose of communication is not to reach a consensus between two people. Only in this way can both parties grasp each other’s mentality and ideas, which can ensure true understanding and tolerance, slowly forming a mutual understanding and empathetic heart. If we avoid communication and rely solely on guessing each other’s thoughts, this deviation will make spouses more and more estranged, and their distance will become wider. In terms of marital life, this is very bad. “In many cases, we don’t want to express our own thoughts. We are afraid of revealing our worries and weaknesses to our loved ones. In fact, there is no need to think that way. The person in front of you is someone who will accompany you for life. What can’t he/she grasp?”
Communication increases each other’s value
For couples, communication has a very important additional function, which can improve their mutual grasp of power and feelings. However, if the way of communication is inappropriate, it may damage the emotions that are finally produced. Therefore, we must use methods to increase each other’s value to communicate.